The Quiet Ego

Involves 4 primary characteristics that also reflect its concerns or preoccupations - increase likelihood of cooperation and dampen self-protective motives against others - representative of growth

  • perspective taking

  • inclusive identity

  • detached awareness - similar to mindfulness - more focus on one’s immediate reactions to the situation at hand - urges responses desires.

  • growth mindedness - viewing any given situation not solely in terms of the immediate moment but rather in terms of how that situation might serve as an opportunity for personal growth - not only for the self but for others as well - personally meaningful development (can involve self, others, or relationships)views characteristics of self-relevant attention in the present moment and over time respectively

The quiet ego reflects balance

Meaning it reflects the values that are concerned with the well-being of the self and the well-being of others.

  • Self-Direction - Control and mastery values

  • Stimulation - variety, stimulation, and activation values , (hedonism or pleasure values)

  • Achievement - success and ambition values (power - social status and authority values)

  • Security - safety, harmony, and stability values (conformity - self-restraint and obedience values)

  • Tradition - respect, commitment and acceptance values (benevolence - helpfulness and loyalty values and universality values that reflect the importance of understanding, appreciating, and protecting the welfare of all people and nature.

Quiet ego and readiness to think, feel, and behave in ways that reflect balance and growth goals and values.

Less defended and more compassionate self-identity.

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